the book i read about non contact for a month said to go out on four dates with different people over the month. In doing so it would help build ones confidence so that when it came time to has a coffee date like i have planned you would be more like your old self. the one your ex fell in love with.
I don't see the harm in this she wants to be freinds. for now that may be what i have to do to get her trust and respect back.
This may sound harsh, but I completely disagree with this. You are involving 4 innocent people in order to "build your confidence" in a dating environment. It resorts to basically using them for your own gain. You still actively want to save your marriage and therefore you should refrain from dating anyone.
