PDT, Forrest Gump was correct. I wasn't saying the effort to reconcile was too much effort, just worrying about the OMs - things I can't control.
PDT, I do assume that they are PAs. And the answer is yes. I agree that the OMs are part of the wall, plus her "trust" issue with me and her resentment that I just didn't get it and it took me doing this for you to get it.
Coach,
Working on my Breaking Free exercises from NMMNG. I'm not an extreme nice guy - she was the only woman I've ever done that with. And in the beginning I actually always was the opposite of a NG. I wouldn't put up with crap. But for some reason after our child was born - I just didn't want to rock the boat. I was trying to be what a good husband should be - giving up my activities, helping with housework, cooking, etc. instead of just being me. NMMNG is a good book.
Five Love Languages was the first book I got. Dr. Chapman only lives 90 miles from me. His Needs/Her needs - check. All good books, but she wasn't ready for those - the wall.
