I want her to want to come back without pressure. i had nothing to do with my parents and brother texting my wife.
she had posted pictures of a corner cabinet my father had made for her on facebook (her grand mother painted a farm scene on it)and sent him the pictures via email.
my brothers g/f moved out of their apartment last month while he was out of town. so my wife responded to his text "i hope everything is better with you".
I went out last friday night with my buddy and his fiance and they dragged one of her g/f's along. we had a good time and played drunken Wii bowling till late in the morning.
the book i read about non contact for a month said to go out on four dates with different people over the month. In doing so it would help build ones confidence so that when it came time to has a coffee date like i have planned you would be more like your old self. the one your ex fell in love with.
I don't see the harm in this she wants to be freinds. for now that may be what i have to do to get her trust and respect back.
before you say it i am also learning to respecting myself to put myself first for a while. i would love to have my wife back but i know i need a new wife(first wife just different). one that wants to be with me
