Yes, you read it right. I took the advice of leaving my W alone and focusing on my kids. I also started pursuing someone during my off time and yes I kept it quiet because I knew it wasn't right to do. I figured there would be a backlash if I said anything about it. Like I said, only one friend knew about it. But I did just come clean about it. I guess I got tired of being lonely and the attention was nice.

I'm not sure why it makes a difference as far as DBing goes. It is really a moral issue. And I did not sleep with her. So my concious is at least clean on that front. But I did enjoy her. My W seems to be coming around in terms of attitude towards me. She is friendlier these days. Maybe by removing my focus from her it has allowed the situation between us to lighten up.

Kevin


Me 36, W 37
M: 08/02/97
D13, D9
1st Bomb 02/08
Reconciled 04/08
2nd Bomb: 09/08
W filed for D 02/04/09
Separated 03/09
D dismissed 06/09/09
Still separated...