Yes you do need to work on becoming comfortable in your own skin. You certainly don't need a relationship with another woman right now. You are still marriaed and I belive that fidelity should be part of marriage . . . I guess I'm just old fashioned.
None of this is easy. I know that it hurts like hell. But you know what Kevin? You will make it. And one day I think you will actually thank you wife for ending the marriage. When I look at how you describe her, her values, her family disfunction. . . I wonder what you see in her. I know that you think she is attractive, but honestly go to the mall on a Saturday afternoon and you will see hundreds of beautiful women.
What I hope you find someday, when you are healed and emotionally healthy, a woman that doesn't judge you by the size of your paycheck. A woman that will treat you with respect and want to spend her time with you. And you will someday if you really want to. But you have a lot of self-work to do. So do I.
I'm a man . . . But I can change . . . If I have to . . . I guess . . .
