Yes we are still seperated. We have started mediation. Here in the Tarheel state there is a mandatory legally seperated period of 1 year + 1 day to file for D.
We have agreed on custody, etc during 2 mediation sessions.
On issues for me - childhood things that surprised me. I come from a family where you didn't talk about things. Never saw my parents fight. Watched my older bro get punished a lot - I avoided and tried to be perfect. Always heard from om - you've to be the best. We moved while I was in high school between 10th and 11th - turns out not a good idea.
We've had some money issues. Not running out, but still I never worried about those things when single. I was single a long time (married at 36) so used to doing things my way on $$$. After marriage started a business which during this economy stressed the heck out of me. I worried about our future, my son's future. Turns out I was withdrawing from her first emotionally, then physically (she has issues too) trying to be the "man" and shield her from those worries. And on and on. During this time she tried to reach me - get me to open up - I heard but didn't "listen". Classic escalation by her in her approach. Then OM appears.
There appears to be 2 OMs. One a coworker, another a high school friend from home (5 hour drive away). OM1 is local during the week guy. OM2 visits on weekends. Of course always tells people who ask "just friends".
Are they still around probably - I don't pay much attention to that anymore. Did for a while - drove me nuts. Too much effort.
