There is no chance for your M to improve while you are screwing other women and lying to your W about it. Try this on for size:
"W, I have been lying to you and betraying you and our M for a long time. I've had a lot of sex outside our marriage with a lot of women. I've been fooling myself that it is OK with you. I've been fooling myself that this is acceptable rather than despicable behavior. Now I'm out of denial. I will no longer treat myself, you, our marriage, or those women others so shamefully. But, I will not live a celibate existence for very long at all. This leaves us three options: (1) have an honest and freely chosen open marriage in which extramarital sex is allowed without deceit or resentment; (2) divorce; (3) include physical intimacy and sex in our M. What are your thoughts about these three options?"
BTW, I seriously doubt you are having sex with women who are experiencing real orgasms. Very few women would orgasm through straight intercourse, especially with a relative stranger. For other types of stimulation, it takes time for sexual partners to learn each others bodies for most women to experience reliable orgasms. So, what you are seeing is a lot of women faking orgasms. There are a lot of f'ed up reasons do this, from self-esteem, to getting bad sex over with quickly, to pumping you up, to trying to feel good by emulating a porn ideal, to simply doing what is expected of them by society. So, you can quit using the excuse of trying to get sexually educated to better please women through casual sexual hook-ups. What you will learn is how to be a selfish user who thinks he is better in bed than he is. And surely that is not good for anyone.
