Yeah, DQ, I said pretty much that to my wife about a year ago, and gave her a copy of a highly recommended sexual abuse book for women. She said she'd look at it. A few days later, the book was gone, and I've never seen it since. I suspect she threw it in the trash when I wasn't looking.
She was nice to me in other ways after that, as if to make up for it.
Yeah, I'm listening. Just like I listened to years of therapy. My ears are ringing. I'll keep trying. What do I do next?! Besides actually just filing divorce papers, that is.