I've been lurking around for the last few days reading posts. A lot of information here to absorb.
My situation:
Me: 43 W: 35 S - 7 Married 7 years
I have read DR once. Need to read it again. I've read many books over the last 6 or 7 months. And I've been on another marriage forum. I just finally got to reading DR and wish I had read a long time ago.
Wife tried to reach me for a couple of years. I believe I was going through a depression due to stress, etc. I didn't hear her. She started threatening leaving around April. Tried to do things on my own with books etc. Failed miserably. Of course doing the I love yous, etc. Everything wrong. Placing blame on me and on her, etc. Waiting for her to show some signs. Getting frustrated etc.
She was having at least and EA with someone. Drove my nuts. And she is the jealous one, not normally me. Screwed up again.
Fianlly went to MC. She didn't seem to into into it. We did couples and seperate sessions with same counselor. I dug deep and was honest with MC. Uncovered a lot of issue during this time. But never got concrete steps or solution-oriented tips to resolve them. Gained insight, but just that.
Trial seperation started mid-July. With rules which she broke with OM from EA (probably PA) She got the new place. I got angry about rule breaking called her on it. Then D word dropped by her. Possibly another OM shows up on scene. She is "done with me".
Finally read DR and now I"m here. MY story in short form.
I want hope, but know if there is any left. Any thoughts from others. The bar is open!!!
