Women with HD...is it true or just situational?

[Esox]

I used the word adulterer because that is what you are at the moment. I’m not trying to guilt you I am stating a fact. And if you love your wife as you profess you are doing the most hateful thing you can do to a spouse. Some people relate that their spouses' adultery hurt them more than the death of their child, or rape. I know not all people feel this way. I'm sure we can all find outliers if we are looking for justification.

I'm not really trying to bust your chops; it is just that you are playing a very heavy game here. You are messing with the lives of a lot of people. You are behaving recklessly. Even if you are using protection, you can still get VD. You can still get someone pregnant. And no matter how casual you think the sex is it probably means something different to your partners. At the risk of using generalizations, it is my experience that most women will not have sex with a man without an emotional connection. Sure there are some that can . . . but I think most women need an emotional bond. And you are treating them merely as a toy for you satisfaction. Yes, perhaps they get something from it too, but you honestly think that is all they really want? Just some rutting?

Know matter how careful you are, someone will eventually see you out sometime. People talk. It will get back to your wife and kids. But your special right? It can't happen to you.

If you are set to live this way then sit your wife down and tell her that her marriage should now be considered open. Tell her that you are, and have been for the last X number of years, having sex with other women. Tell her you will stop if she begins having sex with you. Give her the choice of divorcing you, living in an open marriage, or developing a healthy sexlife in this marriage. You are doing her no favors keeping her in this nod-nod wink-wink marriage. Because you don’t really have a marriage you have a business agreement. You co-parent kids. And you are intimate with women who are not your wife.

I think you both deserve better.