Peace, My ex is so much like yours. Same behaviors, your boundary setting is good. I have found that is necessary to survive this mess. I refuse to be my ex's scapegoat for his anger. I wonder who he is yelling at now.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
