I asked her to choose to end the EA by Nov 27 (our 16th anniversary). I feel I can't be married to someone who is in an affair. I told her if she cannot choose to end the affair, I will choose to divorce. She took that as a major threat and hired a L. So now we have L's and are going to do a mediation on the way to D.
Now the new thoughts and questions.
We plan to have a D mediation sometime in the next few weeks. I want to be reasonable, but I can't be a doormat about the EA/PA.
I wonder if I should have my L file for D without the mediation. It will cost more, but I don't care.
I want her to clearly see that the continuing EA/PA is out of bounds. Of course, after the D is final, there is no more EA/PA because there is no more M.
