so how do i put on a tuff facade with her, when the kids have told her how much i hurt and that they've seen me cry and that i'm reading, praying, etc?
I do not do the I told you so BS. It is pointless.
Can you see the reasons for the advice we gave you previously about NOT involving your children now?
A facade? First off, no tricks, I don't think you're capable of tricking her. More importantly tricks won't get you want in the long haul. So stop trying to trick her.
Praying doesn't make you weak, Reading the Bible doesn't make you weak. Not watching footbal doesn't make you weak, and crying doesn't make you weak. Hurting doesn't make you weak. If she thinks you're weak because of these things, she is wrong. You are either weak or strong because of who you are and resiliance to shitstorms.
You don't want your kids reporting back to mom? Stop keeping them informed of what goes on in your head about their mom.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
