Wow, the coincidences here are just uncanny. My wife is also a personal trainer, and her OM was also a cop! Or, still in the academy, studying to become one actually. Weird.
If you feel you can trust him, this would be ideal. But he's friends with OM; are you sure you can trust him to help you, and to keep it confidential?
You mentioned he is a Christian; if you are also, you may want to pray on this one. I found that when I prayed specifically for knowledge, understanding and DISCERNMENT, that God was generous in answering those prayers. He seemed to allow me to see/hear just what I needed to, WHEN I needed to, and no more (I think if all my wife's stuff had come out at once, I wouldn't have been able to deal with it).
