Calling out the Piecers

[dday101798]

your scatter shot threads all over the place; which by the way...annoying to keep track of you.

Yeah, I know, one of the few times I'm guilty of that, sorry, really, really tired. And a couple of newer posters were anxious to know if things are going in good direction and give them some hope/insperation, I believe one of them is the thread you elude to. I will close up my main thread in 'Surviving', I'm fairly certain this is my home now.

It in a way it does almost seem to good be true, but we've been up this road a few times and never got any results other than constant bickering as we both were still searching out inner issues. Last night, all issues were laid to rest, all of them. All faults were admitted and taken in by the other and accepted.

The speed of things, well in the case of last night, I think we were both just very eomtionally charged to get this all out and over with and finally headed down the path we both know is the right one. undoubtedly, there will be bumps, I expect that, and will remind myself daily that it's not the end of the world. However, due to mainly being concious of not throwing the kids through another loop, things need to go a steady pace. And, as much as she denies it, XW does need to spend some time and get over OM, I was the voice of reason on the subject quite a few times last night. Lastly, our living arrangements prohibit the ability for anything drastic to occur, so a safety by infinate design I guess.

This says nothing to the fact that XW must abide my NC boundry with OM. To make it "fair in love and war" as they say, I have prepared a NC letter of my own to a'friend with benefits' that developed some time after the A and S and although not mentioned last night by XW, will no doubt be a issue for her in due time, so I'm a step ahead and giving her a model to write her letter to OM from as she's not the best writer out there.

I certainly do not want to get hurt again, I stressed that last night, and that I will be watching out for myself for some time, and I will need reassurance from XW that the NC is being upheld. This is going to be a deal breaker. XW understands this. That said, we're a good half year at minimum from anything 'semi-permanent' to completely evolve which I think is also a vast of time for her to deal with any and all OM issues that she need to clense her self of.