For those with a WAS...How do you cope?

[courts0818]

I need to discuss Christmas money with H. I thought about just emailing him something like this:

Since it's already December 4th, I thought I better check in about Christmas. I don't know what your thoughts are on a reasonable budget, so that's why I'm emaling.
I'm all for cutting back again this year - I'm almost done with DD and as you could see, I dropped the idea of a new tree and simply bought some new decorations to spruce things up.

There are still other things to get/do:
Christmas outfit for DD (for when she sings)
Batteries and DVDs for camera & camcorder
Sled
Stocking stuffers for DD
Presents for nieces & nephews
Bday present for newphew
"Bonus" for sitter
Gifts for grandparents (we are making homemade things, but need the materials)
Christmas cards & postage
Special holiday food/treats (cookies with DD and stuff)
Special art projects & holiday activities

Please let me know what you think is a reasonable budget for everything that needs to be purchased/done. I have an idea in mind, but I'd like to see us come to an agreement. If you are planning on me taking care of all these things, I need to know when you will be giving me money to do so. I'm pitching in where I can.

Thoughts? Too wordy? Too many details? I'm not sure if listing everything is best or if I should just say I need X amount of money by X.

If you don't know my sitch, H is still paying for everything. I work part-time and he pays every bill we have. Is it fair that he gives me the money and I take care of everything or am I making it too easy on him? Meaning...all he has to do is show up for Christmas and everything is done.

I've always been the one to do everything when it comes to the holidays - put the decorations up, make the treats, send the cards, do all of the shopping and wrapping...I really don't mind it, but am I making things too easy on him?