Haven't posted in a couple of days, not because things are going well, but because I am back in that numb-sort-of-state where I honestly don't even think about things; literally just doing what I have to do to get through the days. I am not mad, not sad really either. Just numb.
I got home last evening. As soon as I walked in, H said that the basement flooded and had I unplugged the battery for the sump pump. "No, I don't go near that thing, no reason to." Well, it was unplugged and some things are going to have to be thrown out. (In my head, I'm thinking great! H tends to hold onto things that he no longer uses and they are all stored in the basement. I have tried a million times to donate, give away, throw out, but to no avail. Yayyyyyy!!!!!
I went downstairs to survey the damage. He had wet vacced and had the dehumidifier going. Sucks that the water made its way to the finished part of the basement. Some of the carpet will have to be pulled up and the padding replaced after cleaning and drying the floor well. It didn't make it to the laundry room, so nothing of value was damaged.
But, later... H says, "I don't understand how it was unplugged if you didn't do it."
I mean really, why would I have a reason to do such a thing?!?!? "Sure, it's raining. Let me go and flood the basement so all H's stuff will have to be thrown out." No, I didn't actually say it, but come on people!!! I have a place for everything. There is a bowl on the table in the foyer just inside the door for us to put our keys. My keys are always in that bowl. But when H can't find his keys~ "Where are my keys?" My answer is always the same. "I no longer keep up with your keys; that is what the bowl is for."
This morning, "Where is my stuff for my car registration, my insurance card, my new license info?" "It is altogether in one envelope on the counter in the kitchen." A little after 9:00 this morning at work, the phone rings. "What is the website where I can do my registration? I am online but I can only renew my license on here." I look it up, and explain that it is available through the same site.
Now, H is much more computer-savvy than I ever will be. Electronics have a place in my life, but I don't have the need to know everything about every device I use, just has to serve my needs.
I carry stress in my neck and right shoulder. It is so tight right now, you could bounce a quarter off of it. I could use a hug. I could use a back rub. I could use a shoulder, an ear.
I don't even know why I went on so long venting about this. It is typical H stuff, well, my H stuff anyway. Just sucks that I am expected to know everything, yet be given nothing in return.
Last edited by brownidmom; 12/04/0904:46 PM.
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