Still Wandering

[NOMAD]

I followed Wonderful's thread and established this boundary last night:

"Mrs. NOMAD-

As an individual, 2 weeks ago I told you that I could not continue in our relationship without an emotional connection. Since then I have seen no action on your part and this is why I am seeking MC and have scheduled an appointment for next Wed.

As an individual, your husband and our son's father I have decided that I will not share you with any other man. I will not tolerate an open marriage or any 3rd party in our relationship.

If you continue to spend any emotional or physical time and energy with any other man away from this marriage then I will ask you to leave.

I will not tolerate any EA or PA of any kind and I will ask you to be gone immediately if you continue to have contact with any other men in this regard."



There was no denial, she calmly ask where I was coming from and wanted to talk about details. I calmly said that I was establishing where my repsonsibilities end and her's begin, that I did not want to discuss details at this time and that we could do that in MC. She asked if it had to wait until Wed., I patiently said yes and left the room.

We went to a party, she asked if she could wear her wedding ring (first time it's been out in 6 months). I asked why and if she was comfortable doing that. She said because we were going out as a couple and yes she was comfortable.

I'm taking this very slowly but I do feel a new sense of self respect.

Thank you Coach and PDT, your wisdom is invaluable.