How do we get passed this? I try not to speak of these things, but yes, sometimes I have given into to urge to take a jab about the ow. I see this is probably a very bad idea. right? I won't do this anymore. Sometimes he makes vague referances about "if only I (himself) had never done this or that then this would never have happened." I just respond with silence, not sure what to say. Do you think he is looking for reassurance or something? How do I reassure him without seeming like I'm trying to get him home or whatever, not sure what word I'm looking for. thanks...l.t.
