Go ahead and vent, we can understand how you feel.
Remember, to not take things Personally. Our minds will take us to these 'stories' like the one you describe. Those thoughts are what bring the sadness and pain. Why we do this, I don't know yet, as I do the same.
They are a fantasy in our own head, and ultimately it is ourselves who hurt us most deeply, especially with story times like these.
Look at the facts. You don't know what the true story is, an probably can't. It could be the worst, or it could be nothing. We expect the worst.
If it is the worst, what can you do? It's the worst from your perspective, because of where you are. Your STBXW is not doing things 'to' you, she is doing things for herself. How we choose to view them and accept or not accept things is how much pain they will cause us.
Acceptance of how we feel about things is the only way you can then move past them. Strength from knowing you are hurt, sad, in pain and then accepting that it is so is the power to then look to ourselves and know it is truly us inside where that pain comes from and not the actions of another..
The darned hardest thing to do..
I hope you find strength, peace, honor today and to regain the focus on yourself to move forward.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
