Just when I accepted to stick to the NC for myself, he emails me. And I had dreams about him last night. Ugh. I don't know whether to answer back, ignore him, accept going to counseling, etc. Don't know what to interpret from his email and need to protect myself.
If you don't want to go to counselling, and I'm not sure why you want to do it just to co-parent properly (you're parenting fine, he walked out and left the kids) then I would ignore the email.
It sounds a little like he wants counselling to ease his conscience, to tell you all about the A. If you know there is an A then what is there to tell, from your side?
So, first thing is ignore the email just now. Decide whether you want counselling and then arrange it if you do. If you don't just ignore the email. Responding to it will just prolong the email conversation.
Ignoring the email will give you a tremendous sense of power. Or at least, it did for me.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
