Is this the end of my marriage?

[P17]

I've slept on this and taken everybody's advice.

I've decided that W is not getting Xmas stuff back unless she goes through IM. She is trying to ignore the NC and while I know that NC is for me, not for her, I did say in my letter that there should 'only be contact between US for two reasons'.

She is trying to ignore the NC to test me and to wrestle control. She wants to tell me that she is more in control of the situation than me. If I respond in any way, including complying with what she asked, she wins.

I did plan to delete all of her texts and block her calls. Only blocked her calls at the moment as I don't have the next version of the software on my phone to delete texts. Emails are being forwarded automatically to IM. If I had deleted her texts, I wouldn't have seen it anyway. If she happens to catch me face to face and asks, that is what I will tell her.

I will bag up her stuff and keep it handy if she contacts IM (or her solicitor).

Best course of action is to stick to my guns. If I buckle now, as I have in the past, I've had it (again). It's been 2 weeks and 1 days since I sent letter and I haven't broken NC.