Your email address is failing, so I will reluctantly post these 2 things here and hope they don't backfire on me.
25,
As I didn't realize how bad I was to lift up at times... I met someone worse than me that I am doing everything in my power to keep going. He actually hasn't posted on divorce busting, but had seen me talking to everyone one day and contacted me. Funny thing is, he works 2 buildings over from me in Irving. Talk about what are the odds. He is a really nice guy. But wow, he is sooo needy in terms of feeling insecure about his situation. I actually think his situation is far better than many on divorcebusting.com. I have to reasure this guy at least 2 or 3 times a day. I like him and I am all about marriages surviving, so I stick with him and really try to keep him on track. But what it has done has brought realization to me of just how draining I was to people about my situation. In a way he is actually helping me get out of my funk at times by having to focus on him and his situation. This guy really needs to talk to you. He could really use inspiration from you and your success. Literally he is on a roller coaster ride 2 or 3 times a day. He mind reads so much that in the morning he will tell me things seem in good progression with his wife to at night he tells me he thinks she is moving to divorce. It is ridiculous the emotional roller coaster ride he is on. But I am determined to stick with him and keep him on track because i really think from everything he has told me, he can win his wife back. There is no other man involved. There was earlier, but that ended. Now it is riding on him.
He truly makes me evaulate my situation by having to keep him on track every day. Go figure. His divorce busting name is "At The End". I am going to try and get him to start his own thread because I really want you to give him the insight you have so graciously given me. He is work. I finally told him the other day he is not ready for his wife to come back to him. That shocked him. I had to tell him that if he is mind reading this much while separated, it will only be worse if she comes back until he gets a grip on it. Guess where I got most of what I have told him from. I got it from you in having to look at my own situation and relate it to him.
If you are up for the challenge, I could use the help with this guy as I truly believe his marriage is riding on him which i can't say about most people on the boards.
I hope he doesn't read this as I am really in his corner and he really is a good friend.
Kevin
Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance. 1 Corinthians 13:7
Last edited by K4D; 12/04/0908:33 AM.
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
