Deployed Soldier/Father needs your help

[bluerain]

Hi SD, when my sitch had just started I really struggled in the beginning, but as time wore on I sort of just got pi$$ed. I spent more time with my friends, tried to not be home all by myself, especially if I was feeling down that day. I learned to ride a motorcycle, and if there were any especially adventerous jobs to do at work, I made sure to volunteer for them. I flew in helicopters, and tiny planes to really remote places, all things that I NEVER would have done as the person I was in my M.

It will have been two years in feb 2010, and it still hurts sometimes, but Im more angry than anything else. Im sure that most people will say that I need to let that go, but he pretty recently did something really lousy, so I think that Ill just be mad for a little while longer.

I think that you are both reacting in a pretty normal way, her being really angry because you are taking control and spoiling her little fantasy, and you going through all of the emotions that we experience in these kinds of situations.

So go easy on yourself, dont do things in the heat of the moment- if you are emotionally reacting in anger, you will probably make a mistake! Give yourself time to experience the emotions, you cant stop them anyway. Your going to be fine.