Can I save my marriage?

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Well, I have had enough.

I have a friend in town and went to dinner with her. My sis watched the boys cause H worked late and then had hockey. When I got home from dinner she was irate. She said he came home from hockey, didn't even acknowledge the boys and went to the spare room. Closed the doors and was in there for 10 min. Came out said hi to the kids and went to the shower. S3 was sooooo happy to see him my sis said and he hardly gave him the time of day.

I don't get how marriage problems all of a sudden turn you into a bad father? Sis said that S3 wanted to show him something on the computer and H seemed to be in such a hurry he had no time for it. When it came time to leaving he tried to sneak out so S3 didn't get upset but he couldn't. S3 was full of questions, "When are you coming back?" "Are you staying here tonight?" " Are you going to play hockey?" " Will you be here when I wake up?" The poor little three year old is so paranoid daddy isn't coming home. It breaks my heart and broke my sister's as well, as she saw first hand that H could care less. He was more interested in getting out the door.

I am so mad right now. I am ready to lose it. Its one thing to treat me like a doormat, but you do not treat your children like one. You do not leave your family, only to come home and not give them the time of day. It was quite obvious how much S3 wanted to be with him tonight, how fricken hard is it to stay home and spend some time with your children when you see they are in obvious pain.

Its time I deal with this. I get that. Loud and clear. Cause if he isn't here for me and this marriage and family, then he needs to get the heck out before he damages his children even more.

Gnosis, I'm ready for it. Now!