This is good. I just got a txt from my H. It's a forward, which he rarely sends... It's the Tiger Woods txt that I'm sure everyone's seen... Love Hurts, w/a pic of the W holding a golf club and Tiger looking beaten by her.
I replied back.
"LOL! I like her style!"
<smirk>
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
oh my gosh! that is aweful! I hope she is okay. tell her to make sure she stretches her back everyday. that is one of the reason's my back was messed up for 15 years. does she remember if she was tense when it happened, or relaxed in her seat? When it happened to me at 19, I was on the edge of my seat stopped, (we were dragging the street then, so everyone was either stopped or going under 10miles/hr) and some 17 yr old hit me from behind. my 2 friends in the back never had problems, but they were both relaxed.
and I LOVE the fact you got a compliment!!! Has he done that at all this whole time? I can't remember, besides complimenting food or something. and the comment about tiger, wow, I'm shocked he sent that, and would make me think he has not had an A. If he had, he would feel guilt to send it, unless you guys were totally reconciled. just mho.
I don't think I have any plans tomorrow night, so that works out good. I'll probably let the kids watch a movie since that's the only night we are actually home!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
D18 is fine, and she didn't even really have any damage to her car... (not sure how, since the car behind her was not good!) She was probably tense, since she said she put her brakes on because she saw another car cross in front of her, unexpectedly, as they didn't stop at their sign. She works for my friend, who is my Dr (internal medicine doc), so I will have her check in when she goes to work today.
H hasn't been much in the way of personal compliments lately. So it was nice. We'll take them as they come!
Hopefully, this works tonight! Plans change non-stop w/teens and pre-teens, so we'll see what life brings once I pick them up from school!
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
-- Happy, stress-free life w/love in abundance (hopefully w/my husband)
2-Month (14-Year Anniversary is 1/20/2010:
-- Summon-up the courage and knowledge to find proof if there is an affair. (UPDATE - Will need help - no idea how.)
-- Build up enough strength to deal with the results, either way. (UPDATE - working on courage)
-- Have a frank, open discussion w/H regarding what I know (if there is something that gets exposed), and/or what I'm willing to live with within our M. (NOT the way it is!)
Immediate:
-- Heal from this stupid pneumonia. (UPDATE - FEELING BETTER!)
-- Deal w/issues related to my heart arrhythmia (UPDATE - SURGERY 12/28)
-- Have a happy, stress-free holiday season.
-- Re-dedicate myself to a fitness routine. (UPDATE - Walking w/girlfriends - Starting on Monday again...)
-- Begin investigation in possibility of H's affair. (UPDATE - This is on hold until after surgery.)
-- Smile and wave!
Last edited by mindfull; 12/04/0904:24 PM.
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
Two more goals for you... __________________________________
-- Post to my thread at least once a day to let people know how I'm doing. -- Do AT LEAST ONE thing everyday that makes me happy __________________________________
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Last night about midnight I had another heart racing episode. This time, more intense and really scary. I called H, as he had left to go back out of town earlier in the evening.
He helped me through it, and had D18 as a back-up plan to come and get me... Then kept calling back to make sure I was recovering from it. I finally got to sleep about 3am. UGH!
Had an appointment for an ECHO this am, and handled that. My cardiac ablation is scheduled for 12/28. It can't come fast enough.
Felt okay this am (pneumonia is starting to really go away!!), so after the test, I handled one of my goals! I called D18, and invited her and two of her friends to meet me for a Mexican lunch. I haven't caught up with "the girls" in awhile, since they're not here hanging out, always at their Party Palace apartment! Gosh! One laugh after another! Recap of the rear ending, whose boyfriend is "psycho," one has a new job at Victoria Secret, etc... They are all on ALERT if Mr or Mrs MF show up as a call or txt late night, as they may need to come over to stay w/boys and/or drive me somewhere, etc... It was a real smile. I miss them!
(G - Side Note - D18 is experience MAJOR tough love right now... She p*ssed away her Senior Year (they all go to Lutheran schools), and since her grades were only OK, we didn't send her to the university she got into this semester (grades not worthy of 25k in tuition if you're just going to party and have fun!), and put her registration on hold for two semesters. Then, we had some summertime drama, while she was still living at home, because she was less than thrilled w/being 18, and having a CURFEW! So, she and her girlfriends got an apartment, and she registered at the Junior College. Right before she got the apartment, she pitched yet another fit about curfews, and I asked her to take a small bag, and stay w/a friend until her apartment was avail (H could have died! Couldn't believe I actually sent her out in the cold! LOL She went five houses away to a 7000 sq foot house! But, H was proud that I didn't give in to her.) So, since she was nasty, we told her she's on her own w/paying for her apartment and tuition. And, she couldn't have any of her important stuff (laptop, new iPhone, etc...), until I saw evidence that she had registered and paid for school, bought her books, etc... (Didn't want her to p*ss away education). And, we told her that we would pay her tuition BACK if/when she gets a 3.0 at the end of the semester, and would help w/rent if she does better than that.
She's been doing well! Not superb, but well!
We get along so much better. H was/is the ultimate "bud" to her, and I was the ultimate "dud" to her. It is working, and she has a 3.5, going into finals. I'm proud.
But, she's still naughty!!!
So, that was my fun thing for me today. I needed the crazy girl stories and laughs.
THANK YOU
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
ST and I are just trying to hook up on the phone to "girl talk." She's a DB success story, inspirational, and just plain cool!
awe!!! thank you mindfull!!!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
wow, you've done really good with your D18. I am proud of YOU! going thru all of that would be so hard and stressful, but keeping those boundaries and sticking to them...then giving her the rewards if she does the work, is great. and paying back the tuition, that's just like a place of employment, they won't pay for failing grades.
awesome!
I'm really sorry for the stressful night last night. hope you are feeling better today, and good job writing down your goals!!! so important!
can't wait to talk to ya
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
