WAW on suicide watch, what now???

[MHL]

Okay, that was "negotiation" not nogitiation, and it was the Aunt and the SIL not the Aunt and the MIL. Lose 70 pounds and a couple of beers will get you a little loopy. Where I come from we call Thursday night "Little Friday" and I am starting the weekend a little early.

Back to sitch. W has lied so much and has worked so hard at making me the enemy with her family that her family, aunt and SIL, think she is cured and that she now more than ever needs to get a lawyer and get a separation agreement hammered out. What they don't realize is that the separation agreement is the set up for the big D. My W is not in the long term mode right now, so she is not going to want to try to get the things that would essentially take away her freedom, kids, house, bills, homework, soccer etc. Even if I offered it to her, and I'm not, but if I did she would turn it down, thus the WAW syndrome. I just realized this and now is the best time to get this done while she is in this mode. Once I secure what I want, kids, house, homework, soccer, etc. (no one wants the bills) then I can get down to some real DBing. Here in NC you have to be apart 1 year to file for D. I got 9 months to go. I really am starting to not care what she does, I know she will be back on the prowl for another OM, but the Holidays are bad time for that, maybe the loneliness will set in and she might start to think about what she had. I know that does not sound like I am detatching there, I am, it is just an observation. Still taking it a day at a time, but each day puts me further away from the pain and closer to the healing.