SMQ, you seem aprehensive about what I've done. What do you think I should have done? We've been living apart for a year. She could keep us in limbo for another year, or two, or three, until she feels good enough and secure enough and confident enough to D me on her terms. Like I said, my only hope for true reconciliation is to do this on my terms. Do you not agree?
I would like to see you regain the power in the dynamic of your relationship.
Your wife has had it for too long and she has played you seriously for the past few years. Seems to me she knows some tricks to keep you this way. Shes good at it.
And No, I would'nt have sent the letter and I would not have said I would pay for all of it. That has placed all of the initiative on your shoulders. Now you have to follow through or you WILL be a flip-flopper and you will never regain the power because you will have a history of making grand finalizations then never following through. You can stall this though lawyers, fees, schedule conflicts, but still you have no other choice now but to go through with it.
Good for you. It is how you wanted to react and you took that initiative. That takes guts.
question still remains
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she can dish it out but she can take it?
Screw showing her the best of you. What if you mimic'd her behavior how do you think she would react to you being single?
