WAW - Very confused and devastated - pt 11

[confusedinpa]

She just called this afternoon. Her lawyer told her how much she would have to pay me. She was freaking out. I dont think this helps her through the door but who knows...

It's a serious dose of reality for her. When she took a pause in freaking out, i asked if there was anything else. She said no. I just said ok and bye since i just got home with my 7 year old. So we hung up

She called after the kids went to bed and asked how much I really needed. I reminded her of how i asked her the same question weeks ago and she said kept saying she wants to know what the court would order. I reminded that is exactly what happened 3 weeks ago when we went to court and her lawyer thought the number was too low.

Divorce is messy and ugly and I still do not agree its the right solution but with her not wanting to work on it and being involved with others, so I reminded her how I was done waiting for her and am moving on to make the best life for me and the boys.

She then started flipping out on how they would take more than half her net. I just told her that was the position she was putting me when she was going after what she was going after. She then asked about my savings and I said there is no pot of gold there. All our money is tied up in 401Ks and the house.

She then said she thought after last nites discussion I was open to working things out. I told her that I didn't believe that divorce is the right answer but will not work on things unless she is saying that she really wants to try, not to just avoid the financial issues.

She then brought up how I wouldnt help her financially in the past and I reminded her of how angry i was with what she has done so she was just luckt i declined politely instead of telling her how she should ask the guy she cheated with but i knew she couldnt cause he dumped her in Jun

Then she asked how I knew that. I told her I dont need to tell her how other than I know

Then she said she didnt have to listen to this and hung up

I think I'll send a text saying she should call me when she's calmed down....