Pls help--confused and fearful

[newmama]

Daybyday,
You are also an example and role model for your friends and family members who haven't dealt with this before.

Sadly, my SIL went through this before me and she was destroyed--neglected her bills, did so poorly at work they told her to take some time off, cried all day and night, lost 20 pounds when she is already thin, couldn't take care of her boys. But despite how badly she took it, even she bounced back, had a boyfriend for awhile, and now 2.5 years later, her exH wants to remarry her. (BTW her ex acted similar to your WH during his A.)

So she showed me both what not to do(don't stop paying bills, ignore your kids or give up at work--I got some sleeping pills and anti-d's) but also proved that if she could get through this so could I. She didn't get a chance to learn about affairs before he divorced her. I am getting the chance and sharing the info with friends and family.

So, feel proud of how you are handling this with grace, confidence and trying to avoid divorce!