T,
This might not be what you want to hear but FWIW I think you should try and take your focus off XH and concentrate on you and the children.

I know it's hard and I know you don't feel you are done yet BUT if God willing your M is restored you are going to need to be the healthy one with a clear mind. Clouding it with what if thoughts about XH isn't going to achieve that. I know you let him be physically but try and do it mentally too. I think it will help you.


Me 43
XH 45
M 2.7.88
Divorce 7.10.09
Kids D20,S17 & D15