Still in the tunnel with hubby

[kjensen]

So I just had a telephone DB coaching session and got lots of good strategies/advice so my hope is filled up a bit. I know it won't be easy and it may not work but I'm going to keep trying to bust this divorce.

I appreciate everyone's words of support and encouragement! Its a scary time-feels like we could teeter either way...

H is still home and last night he was talking to me before he had the 'dreaded' conversation with our girls. He wondered if he should move out this weekend and I said it was up to him, that I'm OK with him staying...I'm thinking he'll move most of his stuff with weekend though.

One thing I had suggested to H since he won't have his own place and will be renting a room from his cousin..was that I could leave the house a few times a week so H could come over and hang with the girls or cook them dinner. My DB coach said NOT to do this as it displaces me from the home and tends to prolong the process. So that was definitely good info..

He told the girls and D14 broke down completely then became closed off-I worry about her the most. She told her dad that she thought this would happen and wondered when he would realize it- H said he hoped he'd remember that but never thought he'd forget it...I think he saw it as a sign that we shouldn't be together.

D12 was a bit more mentally prepared as she had guessed what was going on b/c her mom's eyes were so puffy. She still broke down a bit though. H held it together but cried some. He was worried D14 would sneak out (again)in order to cope with this news. We slept with our bedroom door open in order to be more aware if she did. Nothing bad happened.

H was more withdrawn this morning but wanted to help shuttle the girls to school. I didn't see him at lunch b/c of my DB coaching session. Will see how tonight goes.