W offered to tell me when she slept w/ or fell for another guy. I said I didn't want to know.
I'm working hard at being positive and seeing things in a more realistic way. It would have driven me mad before.
She's going down to New Mexico this weekend to visit a friend (a guy) and I asked is this something I should be worried about. She said no. I'm not sure if she meant it in terms of her being "done" and not needing to tell me or if she was sincere about no chemistry between them.
I'm not that dumb. Stuff happens and I think if it does I want to know. I'll have to deal with that if I want to proceed on a positive, productive path w/ her.
Should I tell her I've changed my mind about wanting to know about her sexual/romantic situation. If so, how would I frame that?
"Please tell me if you (blank) someone..."?
Don't get me wrong, I'm willing to entertain any physical or romantic opportunities on my end. I'm not pretending to be Mr. Chaste, waiting for a reconciliation that may never happen. I don't like it, but if she's sowing her oats, then I'll have to accept that fact and not keep my head in the sand.
And, saying that this is something that affects me may strengthen what little connection we have right now. Not that that's a huge concern, but having that in the back of her mind may be worth something (whatever comes of the situation).
Anyway, how do I say I want that info?
I'm willing to be the semi-secret romantic that keeps the hope alive (pragmatically, of course).
~Mark
Me: 38 W: 34 Together: 9yrs 1st M: may '03 1st D: april '08 1st bomb: june '08 remarried: oct '08 2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)
