marriedwolf, you said: "Last week we had the second talk. She agreed that she needed to get back into the swing of things and last week we did have great sex. She really enjoys sex when we have it. Since the talk we've done it twice. So what's wrong? This weeks session should be coming up but she seems oblivious to it. I've been pushed to the bottom of the priority list. I half suspect that when I said that we needed to go to Relate she suggested this because 'that's what they would tell us to do'."
Your marriage is far from hopeless. These things can all be addressed. Specifically in the above paragraph, you will need to address this by being honest and direct with her. Do not wait around for her to intiate sex and then be let down when she doesn't. Instead, stand up straight and tall and (metaphorically) beat your chest and then go take your wife to bed as soon as the mood strikes you! If she refuses, find out her reasons and then get a committment from her for when it WILL happen if her reason for putting it off is valid. If her reason isn't valid, then you have to have yet another talk with her about how your sex life is important and you won't allow her to diminish it by giving feble excuses not to have sex. Then take her in your arms and kiss her deeply!
This reply may not make much sense to you right now, but keep posting to us and you'll see...it will make sense later.
