My MC disagrees. He feels that this is time now to sit down with H and discuss the situation, not only for my sake but for the children's.
I AGREE with your counsleor. I told you to have a talk with your husband BEFORE you let him come home..
You absolutely SHOULD have a talk with him... What are you thinking not having a talk over him moving in and out and back in????
You are letting people confuse you about having or not having relationship talks. It is silly to allow him back in and then believe you shouldn't have a talk...
You SHOULD and MUST have a talk..
The key with the "talk" is how YOU come across to him. You don't want to be a mouse.
STRONG, CONFIDENT and sure of yourself. "I want answers and if you don't give me answers, then I am not sure this is going to work., Tell me what the h**ll is going on here with you"
That is the attitude you need and that is the attitude that will make it not only OKAY to have a talk, but also make HIM aware that things certainly HAVE changed...
You are being no more than a doormat to allow him to come and go as he pleases without you speaking up. Don't be his mommy. Be a strong, mature, sure of herself, confident woman who will settle for no less than his best effort.. If not.. Who needs it?
