Oh. That kinda changes the whole dynamic then. Cuz it's not really "transparency" when you've unilaterally TAKEN the see-thru-ness FROM them.
Hmmmm; gonna have to noodle this one.
Puppy
well, it's kind of screwy, you're right. He calls me "Matlock" but we had always been an open book with each other and never had secrets before all of this happened. The cell phones are in my name and he doesn't even have the pw for it. never did. bank accounts are in both of ours and because of an incident that happened before, I had to get credit/background reports pulled regularly for the both of us.. as for the email address pw, I was able to crack them myself and even admitted it to him after the fact. the accounts in question were the ones he had opened up to have communications with the OW. But I deleted those accounts and changed all the info on them being that they are yahoo accounts and it takes up to 90 to delete them and if you try logging in, it gives you the option to re-activate them. I know it's not right that I did that but I felt like he was taking me for a fool. Anytime I ask what he's doing on his phone or PC, he now let's me see. so I dunno.
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