H picked me up from work tonight and we went to see the xmas lights over at our favourite garden centre. Ended up having coffee & cakes and sitting talking! Not the place I'd planned on having our first big R talk, but it happened anyway.
Ended up saying that I wasnt going into 2010 separated, also saying what things I wanted in the way of security (accounts split up more) and transparency regarding a few subjects, H never had an affair but he has a friendship with someone who accused me of doing wrong by her and I didnt! I said I wasnt laying down revenge/ultimatums and he still had the choice to do things differently. We agreed on where we would like to move too (not straight away) and that we would be spending Xmas and New Year together!
We have opened the door on talks, but H is the one that needs to start doing the talking! Its never been his strong point and I will have to learn to give him space to say his piece. But things appear to be taking a good turn at last!
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Once lost but now found and happily married again!
