how to 180 when you've been too independent?

[avermont]

yup, that's it, cutterbug! That's exactly the 2x4 I needed, and how I needed to hear it.

Especially the part about "all our friends being cool with it." Right now I have going for me ALL the friends wanting nothing to do with him. I am very afraid for when the sitch "normalizes" and they figure...well, he's been with OW for 10 months now...Avermont should just be over this...

So the balance is: in DB'ing act cool but friendly BUT no need to reach out and offer little somethings. Cool but friendly when we have to meet; other than that...nada.

Is that better?

I have a very thick head sometimes.