sigh...as we aren't legally married, there is nothing to stop either one of us from just walking out. As he did.
So unless he were to suddenly look like he wanted back into the R with me (not likely) I don't have any boundaries to set. Right? other than treating me respectfully, being civil, that sort of thing. Which we have mostly done.
And--this is hard to say--I feel like the OW now. I mean, why not? I'm not his wife. I was a 'domestic partner' in the eyes of my workplace (and I think his; I don't remember if they had a form for that) but that isn't worth the paper it is written on.
If he has moved on to a fabulous new gf, doesn't that just make me...an ex girl friend. She's the Woman; I am the Other.
Just a sad thought that keeps popping in.
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
