And, as long as I'm doing it for me, with no expectation,
That's what drives cats crazy. Tease em and then ignore em - OMG it's torture to them. They have to pounce after a while, it's what they do.
I could do with a good pounce at this point. He!!, any pounce would be nice.
Keep letting her know you want her but don't need her.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.