Thank you to you all. I did some online searching for some christmas presents for myself ;), took a nap, and watched some tv. Here's my next question. Normally, when h is working late or on a trip, i would call him when we were getting ready for bed so daughter could say goodnight. I should not do that tonight, right? If he wants to talk with her, he can call, right? And no, it won't affect daughter if I don't call, I'm the one that has to usually convince her to talk to her dad at bedtime. When he said to her "I'll see you tomorrow" this morning, she said ok. No questions asked. The good thing is he works such odd hours she never notices the difference. And back to my other question, any idea why he'd take the random items from our closet rather than clothes or books or something of more value?