Can I save my marriage?

[Gnosis]

Britt, I'm sorry you are where you are today. It breaks my heart to see you in this state. Do you remember this post on Nov 23?

Here's a wise piece of advice. When this happens (because it will) and he indicates that he wants to give the R another chance.. as much as it's going to feel wrong and your heart jumps and beats at 240 BPM... TURN HIM DOWN. <SNIP>

Don't make it a hard turn down like, "Over my dead body..." Nope, all you say at that point is... "I dunno. I'm not sure. Let me to think about it." Then shut up. If he wants you he will work for you. If he thinks he's about to lose you at that point, he'll work harder.
This is all in the future so be prepared for it.

I really wish you had. But you didn't. Then you didn't push for explanation or his intentions. And now, unfortunately, you're suffering the consequences of your (in)actions. What you have taught your 'boy' is that he can go on misbehaving and do whatever he pleases and you'll sit and take it. Now he rules you and you live by fear. Fear that he can and will cut and run at a moments notice. He knows this. You know this. There have been no consequences for him and no punishment - just REWARD. That's the lesson HE learned. When I started typing this response I was going to propose an idea. Now as I type I realize it goes completely against what DB advocates and would land me in hot water. So I will keep my peace.

On a more positive note: Although the path you're now on is the longer one and is filled with potholes, there is still opportunity to reconcile. Another positive: He is home and the flowers did the trick.

Don't forget to:
- Look after yourself
- GAL
- Be mysterious

The one bit of advice I can give you is this: Face your fear and conquer it.

I wish you the best of luck Britt.