'November bills are paid. We can do December bills the week of the 13th, as they should all be in by then. When and where would you like to meet?"
I did sit next to him when we paid the bills in October, mostly because we were trying to look at the laptop together. Then the cat jumped into his lap and without thinking I petted the cat which sort of involved touching him....just froze and pulled back. Contact was NOT wanted and I didn't mean/want to give him any.
I was perfectly cheerful and wore my good fitting jeans. I will do the same for the next bill paying.
I would prefer to do it out of the house, at the library, say, but asking him "where would you like to do it" gives him the option to choose an alternative place. I don't want to make it look like I am blocking his access to the house if I request we meet elsewhere.
Great, thanks!
Me: 44 Him: 42 Together: 23 years; never married Bomb: August 1, 2009 Affair since May 2009 Walk away; no conversation; no process
