How about a simple statement, setting of a boundary?
"H, you know the boys and I are happy you have decided to come home. I'm not going to push a "talk" about anything right now, and let's work on making this a smooth transition for everyone. The holidays are upon us, and let's enjoy them as a family."
Let him experience some peace at home w/you and the boys for awhile.
And, next time, there are miscommunication(s), let him know that you both need to work on making sure each other understands schedules, expectations, etc...
Just my 2 cents, but I don't know enough about you!!
I did this last xmas w/my H, and it really took the pressure off of everyone. (Not sure it's okay to patiently wait this all out - FOR A FULL YEAR - but, it makes for a more peaceful existance while IN LIMBO.)
Me-46, D-21, S15, S13
After many years w/my head in the sand... I FILED Divorced 6/2011
The average woman would rather have beauty than brains, because the average man can see better than he can think.
