Can I save my marriage?

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Thanks so much everybody for your input. I am trying really hard at patience right now. My MC disagrees. He feels that this is time now to sit down with H and discuss the situation, not only for my sake but for the children's.

My S3 is very confused, he asked daddy last night if he is coming home after hockey and why he doesn't stay at Aunties house anymore. H simply told him that he lives here now, and he will be sleeping here again every night. He asked S3 if that makes him happy and S3 said "yes daddy". It breaks my heart to be doing this to the children when I have no idea what is going on, why he is here, how long he is staying. All I know is if he leaves again, it will destroy my son, he is constantly asking for daddy while he is at work, or playing hockey, cause he just wants that feeling that daddy is here for good, and the worst part is I can't even reassure him, cause I know just as much as the three year old does!

I want to continue with the DB'ing approach, cause look where it has gotten me. My H is HOME! This is the best thing I ever could have asked for! But my patience is running thin. I know its only day three. But I don't want a room mate. I want a husband. I'm okay with the whole spare bedroom thing if he is willing to work on things, but I just need to know that that's why he is here. Its too unhealthy for me and my children to give them false hope, and I don't know. All I know is I don't think my H will initiate any R talk. I think he is trying to slowly slide back into the groove of things. Well that isn't going to work either. THere is no healthy marriage coming out of that at all.

Puppy, not familiar with Karen's thread but I will read it tonight. Thanks

I was sitting at the table eating breakfast staring into space wondering what to do today and my S3 looks at me and says " mommy, are wondering if daddy is coming home?" My made heart skip a beat. The poor little boy should not have those kind of thoughts. And what do you say to that? I don't even know the answer! It told him no cause daddy lives with us again we don't have to wonder anymore if daddy is coming home (even though I have no truth behind this comment its all I knew to say). Breaks my heart. I swear if H leaves again and puts my boys through that AGAIN, the police will be showing up at my door to arrest me for chopping off his "..."

H called yesterday morning from work to see how the boys were doing and told me he wouldn't be home for supper, he is going to workout and go straight to hockey. Well, seven rolls around, he calls and asks what's for supper. Ugh. Nothing idiot, you told me you weren't going to be home. He is totally using me. He won't man up and tell me what the heck is going on, and why he is home again, but he has the balls to call me and ask what's for supper, then get frustrated cause I didn't make supper as I didn't think he was going to be home? Then he comes home, eats and takes off to go workout and go to hockey. Must be nice to live in a house where you see your boys everyday again, you get meals prepared for you, you get your clothes washed for you, you get the wife to buy you things when you need them, and you can come and go as you please like you're single!

I just dont know how long to put up with this.