Ninety minutes on a phone call? Y'all are like kids, bad attention is better than none at all.
All this crap IS emotionally draining. Keeping consistent boundaries makes life healthier. Do you want to know the secret on how to get off the phone gracefully? Two words.. perhaps with an interjection.
"Oops.. gotta go."
And you know when to say it. If not by the first, second or third gut twinge, definitely by the ninth. People invariably say, "Okay." And you hang up. I'd do that when the former spouse would be insulting me on the phone. "Oops, gotta go." The phone call would end.
Then again.. you just may be a glutton for punishment since I seem to yellberate speak forcefully to you too. That Lotus is one perceptive clever person.
