As for the bills, don't get too wordy with him. Email him back and say you've already taken care of them. Do not elaborate. Do not give him that edge. As for the mail, write "Return to Sender." Reading that really made my skin crawl, that the OW has mail coming to your marital home. Gosh. Some people have NO shame. But whatever, return it and get on with your life.
I know you said you're embarassed to go out in town but do it. Do not let that man have the power to make you stay at home. Get out, do your errands, have fun. It's great that you took up a 10K mile. Do your thing, smile, even if you don't feel it.
Originally Posted By: avermont
I also have to think about why knowing how hurt I am makes me look unattractive? Wouldn't a guy want his partner to be upset that he walked out?
Our situations are flipped--I'm the one who left but I will tell you this story: A week before I moved out I came home to find him packing up boxes. I said, Are you moving? He said, "Yes & I don't have to tell you where I'm going." Wanted to cry so badly but I just looked at him and said, "Fine. Leave all our tax information for me," and I walked out the door to have a good cry. I came home and he was still t here, in our bed, asleep! I think he was really in a tizzy that I didn't lose my marbles. Anyway a week later I left but that's a story for another time but what I'm saying is, you NOT reacting is going to make him cahhhrazy and in disbelief that you can and will get on with your life without him. And it will make you feel like a million bucks if you don't react to him, even if you are dying inside!
