You do not fully understand the dynamics of what went on between my wife and I, but I have no desire to re-hash all of that here. My advice to OT was to follow the course laid out by Sandi (ironically, a AWAW herself, who disagrees with me vehemently on exposure), and to look to her own Subject line -- BOUNDARIES.
We are not in disagreement on that.
It is not "moralizing" to tell your spouse that it is a boundary of personal integrity for you that you will not live in an open marriage.
