I wonder if this is a MLC? Frankly, I don't see much hope at this point.
MLC? PLEASE STOP KIDDING YOURSELF NOW!
the more you write to defend your wife's mid-life crisis the more obvious it becomes this is a full blown affair. her behavior is typical. realize, whatever you do right now you are going to be wrong in her mind, get that through your thick skull asap. you are up against a fantasy, an infatuation, and it is hard to beat. The guy could be butt ugly and walk like frankenstein but in her mind he is a prince coming to rescue her from wonderful's tower dungeon and make her a queen.
I asked you some questions yesterday, answer them, lets get to the bottom of this, esp. phone records, how much she is gone, how much time they are spending together. it is all very important. the sooner you start talking about it the sooner you are going to make some realizations. get your head out of the sand or we will start calling you ostrich.
you're hope right now, is the dude is married. but it is best you start opening your eyes, before she lashes out at you or you get the dreaded "phone call."
