Boundries. She wanted to discuss a possible investment. I stated I am only willing to participate on certain conditions(and listed the conditions). The consequences of failing to honor the boundries would be that she would not achieve what she wants. Now, you may have a different take but I think this was pretty good. It goes right to the heart of cake eating. If you want this, then you must do this. You can't have it all your way and expect me to be involved. Well, she didn't like it one little bit. Much seething anger was thrown at me. I was being unreasonable, it would be too compicated, yadda, yadda yadda. I offered ways to simplify the problem without compromising my boundary or the consequences. I should have walked away, but didn't instead I stayed and took a lot of crap and tried to offer alternatives. She wanted none of it. The more I proposed creative alternatives, the more entrenched she got. I found this interesting.
WAY too complicated, Wonderful. When someone is in the fog of an affair, you have to deal with them on practically a 5th-grade level.
"(Wife), ordinarily I'd love to help you out on something like this, but I have decided that as long as you are having an affair, it would be foolish for me to do so. I won't take that financial risk. End your affair, and we can talk about it."
